回顾，Michael在牛津的演讲原稿

viviant

Oxford Union Speech (March 6, 2001)
On March 6, 2001, Michael Jackson adressed the Oxford Union (Oxford university, UK) to launch his new initiative 'Heal The Kids'. After giving a very emotional speech, during which he broke down into tears, Michael basked in a five-minute long standing ovation.
During the speech, which ran approximately 40 minutes, Michael addressed the emotional neglect of today's children as well as the emotional neglect of his own childhood. He spoke about his troubled relationship with his father and briefly of his own children, Prince and Paris. Michael's speech also covered such topics as violence in US high schools, illiteracy in the US and UK, and even the very tragic story of James Bulger, the toddler who was abducted and killed by two older children in Liverpool.
Thank you, thank you dear friends, from the bottom of my heart, for such a loving and spirited welcome, and thank you, Mr. President, for you kind invitation to me which I am so honored to accept. I also want to express a special thanks to you Shmuley, who for 11 years served as Rabbi here at Oxford. You and I have been working so hard to form Heal the Kids, as well as writing our book about childlike qualities, and in all of our efforts you have been such a supportive and loving friend.
And I would also like to thank Toba Friedman, our director of operations at Heal the Kids, who is returning tonight to the alma mater where she served as a Marshall scholar, as well as Marilyn Piels, another central member of our Heal the Kids team. I am humbled to be lecturing in a place that has previously been filled by such notable figures as Mother Theresa, Albert Einstein, Ronald Reagan, Robert Kennedy and Malcolm X. I've even heard that Kermit the Frog has made an appearance here, and I've always felt a kinship with Kermit's message that it's not easy being green. I'm sure he didn't find it any easier being up here than I do. As I looked round Oxford today, I couldn't help but be aware of the majesty and grandeur of this great institution, not to mention the brilliance of the great and gifted minds that have roamed these streets for centuries. The walls of Oxford have not only housed the greatest philosophical and scientific geniuses -- they have also ushered forth some of the most cherished creators of children's literature, from JRR Tolkien to CS Lewis. Today I was allowed to hobble into the dining hall in Christ Church to see Lewis Carroll's Alice in Wonderland immortalized in the stained glass windows. And even one of my own fellow Americans, the beloved Dr Seuss graced these halls and then went on to leave his mark on the imaginations of millions of children throughout the world.
I suppose I should start by listing my qualifications to speak before you this evening. Friends, I do not claim to have the academic expertise of other speakers who have addressed this hall, just as they could lay little claim at being adept at the moonwalk -- and you know, Einstein in particular was really terrible at that. But I do have a claim to having experienced more places and cultures than most people will ever see. Human knowledge consists not only of libraries of parchment and ink -- it is also comprised of the volumes of knowledge that are written on the human heart, chiseled on the human soul, and engraved on the human psyche. And friends, I have encountered so much in this relatively short life of mine that I still cannot believe I am only 42. I often tell Shmuley that in soul years I'm sure that I'm at least 80 - and tonight I even walk like I'm 80.
So please harken to my message, because what I have to tell you tonight can bring healing to humanity and healing to our planet. Through the grace of God, I have been fortunate to have achieved many of my artistic and professional aspirations realized early in my lifetime. But these, friends are accomplishments, and accomplishments alone are not synonymous with who I am. Indeed, the cheery five-year-old who belted out Rockin' Robin and Ben to adoring crowds was not indicative of the boy behind the smile. Tonight, I come before you less as an icon of pop (whatever that means anyway), and more as an icon of a generation, a generation that no longer knows what it means to be children. All of us are products of our childhood. But I am the product of a lack of a childhood, an absence of that precious and wondrous age when we frolic playfully without a care in the world, basking in the adoration of parents and relatives, where our biggest concern is studying for that big spelling test come Monday morning. Those of you who are familiar with the Jackson Five know that I began performing at the tender age of five and that ever since then, I haven't stopped dancing or singing. But while performing and making music undoubtedly remain as some of my greatest joys, when I was young I wanted more than anything else to be a typical little boy. I wanted to build tree houses, have water balloon fights, and play hide and seek with my friends.
But fate had it otherwise and all I could do was envy the laughter and playtime that seemed to be going on all around me. There was no respite from my professional life. But on Sundays I would go Pioneering, the term used for the missionary work that Jehovah's Witnesses do. And it was then that I was able to see the magic of other people's childhood. Since I was already a celebrity, I would have to don a disguise of fat suit, wig, beard and glasses and we would spend the day in the suburbs of Southern California, going door-to-door or making the rounds of shopping malls, distributing our Watchtower magazine. I loved to set foot in all those regular suburban houses and catch sight of the shag rugs and La-Z-Boy armchairs with kids playing Monopoly and grandmas baby-sitting and all those wonderful, ordinary and starry scenes of everyday life. Many, I know, would argue that these things seem like no big deal. But to me they were mesmerizing. I used to think that I was unique in feeling that I was without a childhood. I believed that indeed there were only a handful with whom I could share those feelings.

.

viviant

When I recently met with Shirley Temple Black, the great child star of the 1930s and 40s, we said nothing to each other at first. We simply cried together, for she could share a pain with me that only others like my close friends Elizabeth Taylor and McCauley Culkin knew. I do not tell you this to gain your sympathy but to impress upon you my first important point -- it is not just Hollywood child stars that have suffered from a nonexistent childhood. Today, it's a universal calamity, a global catastrophe. Childhood has become the great casualty of modern-day living. All around us we are producing scores of kids who have not had the joy, who have not been accorded the right, who have not been allowed the freedom, or knowing what it's like to be a kid. Today children are constantly encouraged to grow up faster, as if this period known as childhood is a burdensome stage, to be endured and ushered through, as swiftly as possible. And on that subject, I am certainly one of the world's greatest experts. Ours is a generation that has witnessed the abrogation of the parent-child covenant. Psychologists are publishing libraries of books detailing the destructive effects of denying one's children the unconditional love that is so necessary to the healthy development of their minds and character. And because of all the neglect, too many of our kids have, essentially, to raise themselves. They are growing more distant from their parents, grandparents and other family members, as all around us the indestructible bond that once glued together the generations, unravels. This violation has bred a new generation, Generation O let us call it, that has now picked up the torch from Generation X.

viviant

The O stands for a generation that has everything on the outside -- wealth, success, fancy clothing and fancy cars, but an aching emptiness on the inside. That cavity in our chests, that barrenness at our core, that void in our center is the place where the heart once beat and which love once occupied. And it's not just the kids who are suffering. It's the parents as well. For the more we cultivate little adults in kids' bodies, the more removed we ourselves become from our own childlike qualities, and there is so much about being a child that is worth retaining in adult life. Love, ladies and gentlemen, is the human family's most precious legacy, its richest bequest, its golden inheritance. And it is a treasure that is handed down from one generation to another. Previous ages may not have had the wealth we enjoy. Their houses may have lacked electricity, and they squeezed their many kids into small homes without central heating. But those homes had no darkness, nor were they cold. They were lit bright with the glow of love and they were warmed snugly by the very heat of the human heart.
Parents, undistracted by the lust for luxury and status, accorded their children primacy in their lives. As you all know, our two countries broke from each other over what Thomas Jefferson referred to as "certain inalienable rights." And while we Americans and British might dispute the justice of his claims, what has never been in dispute is that children have certain inalienable rights, and the gradual erosion of those rights has led to scores of children worldwide being denied the joys and security of childhood. I would therefore like to propose tonight that we instal in every home a Children's Universal Bill of Rights, the tenets of which are:
•        The right to be loved, without having to earn it
•        The right to be protected, without having to deserve it
•        The right to feel valuable, even if you came into the world with nothing
•        The right to be listened to without having to be interesting
•        The right to be read a bedtime story without having to compete with the evening news or EastEnders
•        The right to an education without having to dodge bullets at schools
•        The right to be thought of as adorable (even if you have a face that only a mother could love).
Friends, the foundation of all human knowledge, the beginning of human consciousness, must be that each and every one of us is an object of love. Before you know if you have red hair or brown, before you know if you are black or white, before you know of what religion you are a part, you have to know that you are loved. About 12 years ago, when I was just about to start my Bad tour, a little boy came with his parents to visit me at home in California. He was dying of cancer and he told me how much he loved my music and me.
His parents told me that he wasn't going to live, that any day he could just go, and I said to him: "Look, I am going to be coming to your town in Kansas to open my tour in three months. "I want you to come to the show. I am going to give you this jacket that I wore in one of my videos." His eyes lit up and he said: "You are gonna give it to me?" I said "Yeah, but you have to promise that you will wear it to the show." I was trying to make him hold on. I said: "When you come to the show I want to see you in this jacket and in this glove" and I gave him one of my rhinestone gloves -- and I never usually give the rhinestone gloves away. And he was just in heaven. But maybe he was too close to heaven, because when I came to his town, he had already died, and they had buried him in the glove and jacket. He was just 10 years old. God knows, I know, that he tried his best to hold on. But at least when he died, he knew that he was loved, not only by his parents, but even by me, a near stranger, I also loved him. And with all of that love he know that he didn't come into this world alone, and he certainly didn't leave it alone.

viviant

If you enter this world knowing you are loved and you leave this world knowing the same, then everything that happens in-between can he dealt with. A professor may degrade you, but you will not feel degraded, a boss may crush you, but you will not be crushed, a corporate gladiator might vanquish you, but you will still triumph. How could any of them truly prevail in pulling you down? For you know that you are an object worthy of love. The rest is just packaging.
But if you don't have that memory of being loved, you are condemned to search the world for something to fill you up. But no matter how much money you make or how famous you become, you will still fell empty. What you are really searching for is unconditional love, unqualified acceptance. And that was the one thing that was denied to you at birth. Friends' let me paint a picture for you. Here is a typical day in America - six youths under the age of 20 will commit suicide, 12 children under the age of 20 will die from firearms -- remember this is a day, not a year. Three hundred and ninety-nine kids will be arrested for drug abuse, 1,352 babies will be born to teen mothers. This is happening in one of the richest, most developed countries in the history of the world. Yes, in my country there is an epidemic of violence that parallels no other industrialized nation. These are the ways young people in America express their hurt and their anger. But don't think that there is not the same pain and anguish among their counterparts in the UK. Studies in this country show that every single hour, three teenagers in the UK inflict harm upon themselves, often by cutting or burning their bodies or taking an overdose. This is now they have chosen to cope with the pain of neglect and emotional agony.
In Britain, as many as 20% of families will only sit down and have dinner together once a year. Once a year! And what about the time-honored tradition of reading your kid a bedtime story? Research from the 1980s showed that children who are read to, had far greater literacy and significantly outperformed their peers at school. And yet, less than 33% of British children ages two to eight have a regular bedtime story read to them. You may not think much of that until you take into account that 75% of their parents did have that bedtime story when they were that age. Clearly, we do not have to ask ourselves where all of this pain, anger and violent behavior comes from. It is self-evident that children are thundering against the neglect, quaking against the indifference and crying out just to be noticed. The various child protection agencies in the US say that millions of children are victims of maltreatment in the form of neglect, in the average year.
Yes, neglect. In rich homes, privileged homes, wired to the hilt with every electronic gadget. Homes where parents come home, but they're not really home, because their heads are still at the office. And their kids? Well, their kids just make do with whatever emotional crumbs they get. And you don't get much from endless TV, computer games and videos. These hard, cold numbers which for me, wrench the soul and shake the spirit, should indicate to you why I have devoted so much of my time and resources into making our new Heal the Kids initiative a colossal success. Our goal is simple - to recreate the parent/child bond, renew its promise and light the way forward for all the beautiful children who are destined one day to walk this earth. But since this is my first public lecture, and you have so warmly welcomed me into your hearts, I feel that I want to tell you more. We each have our own story, and in that sense statistics can become personal. They say that parenting is like dancing. You take one step, your child takes another. I have discovered that getting parents to rededicate themselves to their children is only half the story. The other half is preparing the children to reaccept their parents. When I was very young I remember that we had this crazy mutt of a dog named Black Girl, a mix of wolf and retriever. Not only wasn't she much of a guard dog, she was such a scared and nervous thing that it is a wonder she did not pass out every time a truck rumbled by, or a thunderstorm swept through Indiana. My sister Janet and I gave that dog so much love, but we never really won back the sense of trust that had been stolen from her by her previous owner.
We knew he used to beat her. We didn't know with what. But whatever it was, it was enough to suck the spirit right out of that dog. A lot of kids today are hurt puppies who have weaned themselves off the need for love. They couldn't care less about their parents. Left to their own devices, they cherish their independence. They have moved on and have left their parents behind. Then there are the far worse cases of children who harbor animosity and resentment toward their parents, so that any overture that their parents might undertake would be thrown forcefully back in their face. Tonight, I don't want any of us to make this mistake. That's why I'm calling upon all the world's children -- beginning with all of us here tonight -- to forgive our parents, if we felt neglected. Forgive them and teach them how to love again. You probably weren't surprised to hear that I did not have an idyllic childhood. The strain and tension that exists in my relationship with my own father is well documented. My father is a tough man and he pushed my brothers and me hard, from the earliest age, to be the best performers we could be. He had great difficulty showing me affection. He never really told me he loved me. And he never really complimented me either. If I did a great show, he would tell me it was a good show. And if I did an OK show, he would say nothing.
He seemed intent, above all else, on making us a commercial success. And at that he was more than adept. My father was a managerial genius and my brothers and I owe our professional success, in no small measure, to the forceful way that he pushed us. He trained me as a showman and under his guidance I couldn't miss a step. But what I really wanted was a Dad. I wanted a father who showed me love. And my father never did that. He never said I love you while looking me straight in the eye, he never played a game with me. He never gave me a piggyback ride, he never threw a pillow at me, or a water balloon

viviant

But I remember once when I was about four years old, there was a little carnival and he picked me up and put me on a pony.
It was a tiny gesture, probably something he forgot five minutes later. But because of that moment I have this special place in my heart for him. Because that's how kids are, the little things mean so much to them and for me, that one moment meant everything. I only experienced it that one time, but it made me feel really good, about him and the world. But now I am a father myself, and one day I was thinking about my own children, Prince and Paris and how I wanted them to think of me when they grow up. To be sure, I would like them to remember how I always wanted them with me wherever I went, how I always tried to put them before everything else. But there are also challenges in their lives. Because my kids are stalked by paparazzi, they can't always go to a park or a movie with me.
So what if they grow older and resent me, and how my choices impacted their youth? Why weren't we given an average childhood like all the other kids, they might ask? And at that moment I pray that my children will give me the benefit of the doubt. That they will say to themselves: "Our daddy did the best he could, given the unique circumstances that he faced. "He may not have been perfect, but he was a warm and decent man, who tried to give us all the love in the world." I hope that they will always focus on the positive things, on the sacrifices I willingly made for them, and not criticize the things they had to give up, or the errors I've made, and will certainly continue to make, in raising them. For we have all been someone's child, and we know that despite the very best of plans and efforts, mistakes will always occur. That's just being human. And when I think about this, of how I hope that my children will not judge me unkindly, and will forgive my shortcomings, I am forced to think of my own father and despite my earlier denials, I am forced to admit that me must have loved me. He did love me, and I know that. There were little things that showed it. When I was a kid I had a real sweet tooth -- we all did. My favorite food was glazed doughnuts and my father knew that. So every few weeks I would come downstairs in the morning and there on the kitchen counter was a bag of glazed doughnuts -- no note, no explanation -- just the doughnuts. It was like Santa Claus. Sometimes I would think about staying up late at night, so I could see him leave them there, but just like with Santa Claus, I didn't want to ruin the magic for fear that he would never do it again.
My father had to leave them secretly at night, so as no one might catch him with his guard down. He was scared of human emotion, he didn't understand it or know how to deal with it. But he did know doughnuts. And when I allow the floodgates to open up, there are other memories that come rushing back, memories of other tiny gestures, however imperfect, that showed that he did what he could. So tonight, rather than focusing on what my father didn't do, I want to focus on all the things he did do and on his own personal challenges. I want to stop judging him. I have started reflecting on the fact that my father grew up in the South, in a very poor family. He came of age during the Depression and his own father, who struggled to feed his children, showed little affection towards his family and raised my father and his siblings with an iron fist. Who could have imagined what it was like to grow up a poor black man in the South, robbed of dignity, bereft of hope, struggling to become a man in a world that saw my father as subordinate.
I was the first black artist to be played on MTV and I remember how big a deal it was even then. And that was in the 80s! My father moved to Indiana and had a large family of his own, working long hours in the steel mills, work that kills the lungs and humbles the spirit, all to support his family. Is it any wonder that he found it difficult to expose his feelings? Is it any mystery that he hardened his heart, that he raised the emotional ramparts? And most of all, is it any wonder why he pushed his sons so hard to succeed as performers, so that they could be saved from what he knew to be a life of indignity and poverty? I have begun to see that even my father's harshness was a kind of love, an imperfect love, to be sure, but love nonetheless. He pushed me because he loved me. Because he wanted no man ever to look down at his offspring. And now with time, rather than bitterness, I feel blessing. In the place of anger, I have found absolution. And in the place of revenge I have found reconciliation. And my initial fury has slowly given way to forgiveness.
Almost a decade ago, I founded a charity called Heal the World. The title was something I felt inside me. Little did I know, as Shmuley later pointed out, that those two words form the cornerstone of Old Testament prophecy. Do I really believe that we can heal this world, that is riddled with war and genocide, even today? And do I really think that we can heal our children, the same children who can enter their schools with guns and hatred and shoot down their classmates, like they did at Columbine? Or children who can beat a defenseless toddler to death, like the tragic story of Jamie Bulger? Of course I do, or I wouldn't be here tonight. But it all begins with forgiveness, because to heal the world, we first have to heal ourselves. And to heal the kids, we first have to heal the child within, each and every one of us. As an adult, and as a parent, I realize that I cannot be a whole human being, nor a parent capable of unconditional love, until I put to rest the ghosts of my own childhood. And that's what I'm asking all of us to do tonight. Live up to the fifth of the 10 Commandments. Honor your parents by not judging them. Give them the benefit of the doubt. That is why I want to forgive my father and to stop judging him. I want to forgive my father, because I want a father, and this is the only one that I've got.
I want the weight of my past lifted from my shoulders and I want to be free to step into a new relationship with my father, for the rest of my life, unhindered

viviant

by the goblins of the past. In a world filled with hate, we must still dare to hoe. In a world filled with anger, we must still dare to comfort. In a world filled with despair, we must still dare to dream. And in a world filled with distrust, we must still dare to believe. To all of you tonight who feel let down by your parents, I ask you to let down your disappointment. To all of you tonight who feel cheated by your fathers or mothers, I ask you not to cheat yourself further. And to all of you who wish to push your parents away, I ask you to extend you hand to them instead. I am asking you, I am asking myself, to give our parents the gift of unconditional love, so that they too may learn how to love from us, their children. So that love will finally be restored to a desolate and lonely world. Shmuley once mentioned to me an ancient Biblical prophecy which says that a new world and a new time would come, when "the hearts of the parents would be restored through the hearts of their children." My friends, we are that world, we are those children. Mahatma Gandhi said: "The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong." Tonight, be strong. Beyond being strong, rise to the greatest challenge of all -- to restore that broken covenant. We must all overcome whatever crippling effects our childhoods may have had on our lives and in the words of Jesse Jackson, forgive each other, redeem each other and move on. This call for forgiveness may not result in Oprah moments the world over, with thousands of children making up with their parents, but it will at least be a start, and we'll all be so much happier as a result. And so ladies and gentlemen, I conclude my remarks tonight with faith, joy and excitement. From this day forward, may a new song be heard. Let that new song be the sound of children laughing. Let that new song be the sound of children playing. Let that new song be the sound of children singing. And let that new song be the sound of parents listening. Together, let us create a symphony of hearts, marveling at the miracle of our children and basking in the beauty of love. Let us heal the world and blight its pain. And may we all make beautiful music together. God bless you, and I love you."

半杯水

谢谢楼主分享。。可惜我英语不行。。。

tracywyr

怎么发在这里？？

小孜孜

我一个都没看懂。。。。。

轩宁

看不懂 真后悔小时候没好好上学

xhy

谢谢楼主分享。。可惜我英语不行。。。

卡哇伊果冻

楼主，谢谢了~可是我看不懂啊~要不发个中文翻译上来？？

viviant

谢谢，谢谢各位亲爱的朋友，对大家如此热烈的欢迎，我由衷的表示感谢，谢谢主席，对您的盛意邀请，我感到万分荣幸。同时，我特别地感谢犹太教律法家Shmuley，感谢您十一年来在牛津所做的工作。您和我一起努力建立“拯救儿童”，就如创作我们的直白书一样艰辛，但自始至终你都给予极大的支持和爱心。我还要感谢“拯救儿童”的理事Toba Friedman，她将于今晚返回母校，在此，她曾经作为一个Marshall学者工作过。当然还感谢我们“拯救儿童”组织的另一位中心成员Marilyn Piels。

能来到这样一个曾经汇集过特蕾莎修女、爱因斯坦、罗纳德·里根、罗伯特·肯尼迪和 Malcolm X等著名人物的地方演讲我感到受宠若惊。听说Kermit the Frog曾经来过这里，我也和他有同感就是，没有深厚阅历的人来这里可并不容易，但我相信他一定没有想到我竟会这么容易的做到。

今天我参观牛津大学，真的忍不住被这一伟大建筑的宏伟壮观所吸引，更不必说这世纪之城才俊云集的绚烂了。牛津不仅荟萃了最出色沉着的科学英才，还引导出了从J.R.R.托尔金到C.S.刘易斯等不少极富爱心的儿童文学家。今天，我被允许在教堂餐厅里参观了雕刻在彩色玻璃窗里的Lewis Carroll的爱丽斯梦游仙境。同时发现还有我的一位美国同胞，亲爱的苏斯先生也为此增色，启发着全世界的千万儿童的想象力。

今晚，我想先从我为何能有幸在这里讲话开始。

朋友们，正如其他一些来此的演讲者不善于月球漫步一样，我也并不具备他们所拥有的学术专业知识--而且，大家都知道，爱因斯坦在这方面尤其让人敬畏。但是我可以说，比起大多数人，在其他文化方面我拥有更丰富的经验。人类文明不仅仅包括图书馆中纸墨记载的，还包括那些记在人们内心的，刻进人们灵魂的，印入人类精神的。而且朋友们，在我相对短暂的生命里我经历了这么多，以至于我真的难以相信自己只有42岁。我经常对Shmuley说我的心理年龄肯定至少有80了，今晚我甚至象个80岁老人一样走路。那么就请大家听我说，因为今天我一定要对大家讲的或许会让大家一起来治愈人道，拯救地球！

多亏上帝的恩典，我很幸运地提前实现了自己一生的艺术和职业抱负。但这些成绩和我是谁，完全不同性质。事实上，在崇拜者面前活泼快乐地表演Rocking Robin和Ben的五岁小男孩并不意味笑容背后的他也同样快乐。

今晚，我不想以一个流行偶像的身份出现在大家面前，我更愿意作一代人的见证，一代不再了解作为孩子有什么意义的人。大家都有过童年，可我却缺少它，缺少那些宝贵的美妙的无忧无虑嬉戏玩耍的时光，而那些日子我们本该惬意地沉浸在父母亲人的疼爱中，为星期一重要的拼写考试下功夫做准备。熟悉The Jackson 5的朋友都知道我5岁时就开始表演，从那以后，就再也没有停止过跳舞唱歌。

虽然音乐表演的确是我最大的乐趣，可是小的时候我更想和其他的男孩子一样，搭树巢，打水仗，捉迷藏。但是命中注定我只能羡慕那些笑声和欢乐，我的职业生活不容停歇。

不过，作为耶和华见证人，每个礼拜天我都要去参加教会工作，那时，我就会设想自己的童年和别人的一样充满魔力。而自从我成名以后，我就不得不用肥大的衣服，假发，胡须和眼镜把自己伪装起来。我们在加州南部的郊区度过一整天，挨家挨户串门，或者在购物中心闲逛，发放我们的了望台杂志。我也喜欢到普通的家庭里去，看那些粗毛地毯，看那些小家伙们过家家，看所有的精彩普通闪亮的日常生活情景。我知道很多人会认为这没什么大不了，可对我却充满了诱惑。我常常想自己这种没有童年的感觉是独一无二的，我想能和我分享这种感觉的人更是少之又少。

前些时候，我有幸遇到了三，四十年代的一位童星秀兰·邓波儿，一见面我们什么都不说，只是一起哭，因为她能分担我的痛苦，这种痛苦只有我的一些密友，伊丽莎白·泰勒和麦考利·库尔金他们才能体会到。我说这些并不是要博得大家的同情，只是想让大家牢记一点——这种失去童年的痛苦不仅仅属于好莱坞的童星。

现在，这已经成为全世界的灾难。童年成了当代生活的牺牲品。我们使很多孩子不曾拥有欢乐，不曾得到相应的权利，不曾获得自由，而且还认为一个孩子就该是这样的。 现在，孩子们经常被鼓励长大得快一些，好象这个叫做童年的时期是一个累赘的阶段，大人们很不耐烦地想着法儿让它尽可能地快些结束。在这个问题上，我无疑是世界上最专业的人士之一了。我这一代正是废除亲子盟约必要性的见证。

心理学家在书中详述了不给予孩子绝对的爱而导致的毁灭性影响，这种无条件的爱对他们精神和人格的健康发展是极其必要的。因为被忽视，很多孩子就封闭自己。他们渐渐疏远自己的父母亲，祖父母以及其他的家庭成员，我们身边那种曾经团结过一代人的不灭的凝集力就这样散开了。这种违背常理的行为造就了一代新人，他们拥有所有外在的东西--财富，成功，时装和跑车，但他们的内心却是痛苦和空虚。胸口的空洞，心灵的荒芜，那些空白的地方曾经搏动着我们的心脏，曾经被爱占据。其实，不仅孩子们痛苦，父母亲也同样受煎熬。我们越是让孩子们早熟，我们就越来越远离了天真，而这种天真就算成年人也值得拥有。

爱，女士们先生们，爱是人类家庭最珍贵的遗产，是最贵重的馈赠，是最无价的传统，是我们应该代代相传的财富。以前，我们或许没有现在所享受的富有，房子里可能没有电，很多孩子挤在没有取暖设施的狭小房间里。但这些家庭里没有黑暗，也没有寒冷。他们点燃爱之光，贴紧的心让他们感到温暖。父母不为各种享受和权利的欲望分心，孩子才是他们的生活中最重要的。

我们都知道，我们两国在托马斯·杰弗逊提出的所谓“几个不可妥协的权利”上决裂。当我们美国人和英国人在争执各自要求的公平时，又有什么关于孩子们不可妥协的权利之争呢，对这些权利的逐步剥夺已经导致了世界上的很多孩子失去欢快乐趣和童年的安全感。因此我建议今晚我们就为每个家庭建立一部全体儿童权利条约，这些条例是：

不必付出就可享受的被爱的权利

不必乞求就可享有的被保护的权利

即使来到这个世界时一无所有，也要有被重视的权利

即使不引人注意也会有被倾听的权利

不须要与晚间新闻和复活节抗争，就能在睡觉前听一段故事的权利

不须要躲避子弹，可以在学校受教育的权利

哪怕你只有妈妈才会爱的脸蛋，也要有被人尊重的权利。

朋友们，人类所有知识的创立，人类意识的萌芽必然需要我们每一个人都成为被爱的对象。哪怕你不知道自己的头发是红色还是棕色，不知道自己是白人还是黑人，不知道自己信仰哪个宗教，你也应该知道自己是被爱着的。

大概十二年前，我正好在准备我的真棒巡演，一个小男孩和他的父母亲来加州看我。癌症正在威胁着他的生命，他告诉我他非常爱我和我的音乐。他的父母告诉我他生命将尽，说不上哪一天就会离开，我就对他说:“你瞧，三个月之后我就要到堪萨斯州你住的那个城市去开演唱会，我希望你来看我的演出，我还要送给你一件我在一部录影带里穿过的夹克。”他眼睛一亮，说:“你要把它送给我？” 我说:“当然，不过你必须答应我穿着它来看我的演出。”我只想尽力让他坚持住，就对他说:“我希望在我的演唱会上看见你穿着这件夹克戴着这只手套。”于是，我又送了一只镶着莱茵石的手套给他。一般我决不送手套给别人。但他就要去天堂了。不过，也许他离那儿实在太近，我到他的城市时，他已经走了，他们埋葬他时给他穿上那件夹克戴上那只手套。他只有10岁。上帝知道， 我知道，他曾经多么努力地支持过。但至少，在他离开时，他知道自己是被深爱着的，不仅被父母亲，甚至还有几乎是个陌生人的我也同样爱他。拥有了这些爱，他知道他不是孤独地来到这个世界，同样也不是孤独地离开。

如果你降临或离开这个世界时都感到被爱，那么这些时间里发生的所有意外你都能对付得了。教授可能降你的级，可你自己并没有降级，老板可能排挤你，可你不会被排挤掉，一个辩论对手可能会击败你，可你却仍能胜利。他们怎么能真正战胜你击倒你呢？因为你知道你是值得被爱的，其余的只是一层包装罢了。可是，如果你没有被爱的记忆，你就无法发现世界上有什么东西能够让你充实。无论你挣了多少钱，无论你有多出名，你仍然觉得空虚。

你真正寻找的只是无条件的爱和完全的包容。而这些在你诞生时就被拒绝给予。朋友们，让我给大家描述一下这样的情景，在美国每一天将有--6个不满20岁的青年自杀，12个20岁以下的孩子死于武器---记住这只是一天，不是一年。另外还有399个年轻人因为服用麻醉品而被逮捕，1352个婴儿被十几岁的妈妈生出来，这都发生在世界上最富有最发达的国家。是的，我国所充斥的暴力，其他的工业化国家无法相提并论。这只是美国年轻人宣泄自己所受的伤害和愤怒的途径，但是，难道英国就没有同样烦恼痛苦的人么？调查表明英国每小时都会有三个十来岁的孩子自残，经常割烫自己的身体或者服用过量药剂。这是他们现在用来发泄痛苦烦恼的方法。在大不列颠，有20%的家庭一年只能聚在一起吃一次晚饭，一年才一次！80年研究发现，听教多的孩子都有较强的识读能力和动手能力，而且，远比看着学的有效果。然而，英国只有不到33%的二至八岁的孩子才能固定地在晚睡前听段故事。如果我们没有意识到75%的家长在他们的那个年龄都是听着故事过来的，那么大家可能就不会想到什么了。很显然，我们没有问过自己这些痛苦愤怒和暴力从何而来。不言而喻，孩子们特别憎恨被忽略，害怕冷漠，他们哭泣只是为了引起注意。在美国，各种儿童保护机构表示，平均每年，有千万儿童成为了因忽略冷漠是受害者，这是一种虐待！富有的家庭，幸运的家庭，完全被电子器件束缚了。父母亲回到家里，可是他们没有真正回家，他们的灵魂还在办公室。

那么孩子们呢？啊，只好以他们所能得到的一些感情的碎片勉强过活。在无休止的电视，电脑游戏和录像带上又能得到多少呢！这些让我觉得扭曲灵魂震撼心灵的又冷又硬的东西正好可以让大家明白，我为什么要花费这么多时间精力来支援拯救孩子的活动让它能获得巨大的成功。我们的目的很简单——重建父母儿女之间的融洽关系，重许我们的承诺去点亮所有终究有一天会来到这个世界美丽孩子们的前行路途。（这次公开演讲之后，你们能对我敞开心扉，我觉得我会和你们聊更多。不过如果对我们每个人各自的故事都作统计的话就可能侵犯个人隐私了。）常言道，抚养孩子就像跳舞。你走一步，你的孩子跟一步。而我发觉养育孩子时，你对孩子的付出只是故事的一半，而另一半就是孩子对父母的回报。

viviant

在我小时候，我记得我们有一只名叫“黑姑娘”的狼狗，她不仅不能看家，而且很胆小并且神经质，甚至对卡车的声音和印地安那的雷雨也恐惧不已，我的妹妹珍妮和我在她身上下了不少心，但是我们没能赢得她的信任，她以前的主人总是打她，我们不知道为了什么，但是无论因为什么，这尚不足以使这条狗丧失忠诚。

如今许多冷漠的年轻人都是受伤害的可怜人。他们一点也不关心他们的父母。他们独来独往，捍卫他们的独立。他们不停地向前，而把父母抛在了后面。还有更糟的孩子，他们怨恨父母，甚至父母的任何可能的提议都会被激烈地驳回。

今晚，我不希望我们之中任何人犯这样的错误，这就是为什么我正号召全世界的孩子--和我们今晚在场的人一起开始--宽恕我们的父母，如果我们觉得被忽略，那么宽恕他们并且教他们怎样爱。 听到我没有一个幸福童年时您可能并不吃惊，我和我父亲的紧张关系就是一例。

我父亲是个严厉的人，从记事起，他努力地让我们尽量做好的演员，他不善于表达爱，他从不说他爱我，也从未夸奖我，如果我表现的很棒，他会说不错，如果我表现的还行，他就什么也不说，让我们取得事业的成功是他最热切的希望，我的父亲是个天才管理者，我和我的哥哥们在事业上不成功，他就以强迫的方式，让我成为一个演员，在他的指导下，我没有错过任何一个机遇，但我真正想要的是一个让我感觉到爱的父亲，我的父亲却不是这样，在他直视着我时从不说爱我，从未和我玩过一个游戏，没有玩过骑马，没有扔过枕头，没有玩过水球，但我记得我四岁那年，有一个小的狂欢节，他把我放在小马上，这样小的一个动作，或许他五分钟就忘记了，但因为那一刻，在我心里，他有了一个特别的位置，这就是孩子，很小的事情对他们意味着很多，对我亦如此，那一刻意味着一切，我仅仅经历过一次，但那感觉真好，对他也是对世界的感觉！

但是现在我自己也当爸爸了，有一天我正在想着我自己的孩子Prince、Paris，还有我希望他们长大后怎样看我。我肯定的是，我希望他们想起我的时候，能记得我不管去哪，都要他们在我身边，想起我如何总是把他们放在一切之前。但他们的生活里总是有挑战。因为我的孩子们总是被那些八卦小报跟踪，他们也不能和我经常去公园或者影院。

所以如果他们长大了之后怨恨我，那又怎么样呢？我的选择给他们的童年带来了多大的影响？他们也许会问，为什么我们没有和其他孩子一样的童年呢？在那一刻，我祈祷，我的孩子能够理解我。他们会对自己说：“我们的爸爸已经尽了他最大努力，他面对的是独一无二的状况。他或许不完美，但他却是个温和正派的人，想把这世上所有的爱都给我们。”

我希望他们能总是把焦点放在那些积极的方面，比如我心甘情愿为他们做出的牺牲；而不是那些他们不得不放弃的事情，或我在抚养他们的过程中犯过的或不能避免犯下的错误。因为我们都曾是他人的孩子，而且我们都清楚，尽管有非常好的计划和努力，错误仍总是会发生。因为人孰无过？

当我想到这，想到我是多么希望我的孩子不会觉得我不够好，而且会原谅我的缺点时，我不得不想起我自己的父亲，不管我之前是多么地否定他，我必须承认他一定是爱我的。他的确爱我，我知道的。从一件小事就可以看出来，在我小时候，非常喜欢吃甜食--孩子们都这样。我父亲知道我最喜欢吃面包圈。于是每隔几个星期，当我早上从楼上下来时，我都会再厨房的柜台上发现一整袋面包圈--没有字条、没有说明。就像是圣诞老人送来的礼物。

有时我曾经想熬夜藏在一边，以看到他把它们留在那里。但就像对待圣诞老人的传说那样，我不想破坏掉这种神奇幻想，更害怕他再也不会继续。我的父亲得晚上悄悄地把它们留在那里，并不让任何人知道。他害怕提及人类的情感。他不懂也不知道怎么处理。但他就懂得面包圈对我的意义。

当我打开记忆的洪闸时，更多的回忆涌现出来，那些关于一些微妙动作的记忆，尽管已经不太清晰，但绝对体现了他再尽力而为。于是今晚，与其专注于我父亲没有作到什么，我更愿意专注于所有他历尽艰难尽力作到的事情。我想停止对他的判断。

我回想我的父亲是在南方一个非常贫穷的家庭长大的。他来自大萧条时期，而我的父亲的奋力养育着孩子们的父亲，也没有对家庭表现出多少慈爱，我的父亲和其他兄弟姐妹在爷爷的铁拳下长大。谁设想过一个在南方长大的黑人的处境？没有尊严，没有希望，想拼力在这个视我父亲为下jian种的世界里争得立足之地。我是第一个登上MTV台的黑人艺人，我还记得那有多艰难，但那还是在80年代！后来我父亲搬到印地安那州并且有了自己的大家庭，他在炼钢厂长时间的工作，那工作很低下，而且对肺有损害，这一切都是为了家。这是否很奇怪，因为他艰于表达？这是否很神秘，因为他的心那样饱经沧桑？最重要的，这是否不可理解，因为他逼他的儿子去走演艺成功之路？为了免于再过受侮辱和贫穷的生活，我开始明白就连父亲的咆哮也是一种爱，一种不完美的爱，但是尽管如此，他逼我因为他爱我，因为他希望没人会鄙视他的子女，现在，想起曾经的苦难，我感到幸福。在愤怒中，我发现了超脱，在复仇中，我发现了和解，就连最初的愤怒也慢慢变成了宽恕。

差不多十年前，我建立了一个叫“拯救世界”的慈善机构，这名字本身正是我潜藏的感觉，就我知道的一点 ，正如Shmuley后来指出的那样，那两个字是古老预言实现的基础，我们真的能拯救世界吗？这个问题直到今天一直被战争以及人种问题困绕着。我们真的能够拯救孩子吗？那些带枪进学校满怀仇恨甚至向同学开枪的孩子，那些将被打者打死的孩子，就像Jamie Bulger的悲剧故事，我们真的可以吗？是的，否则我今晚不会站在这里。

但是这一切都从宽恕开始，因为要拯救世界我们必须首先拯救自己。而要拯救孩子，我们首先要保护孩子的内心，人人有责，作为一个成年人，我意识到我不能作为一个完整的人存在，或者作为有能力无条件给予爱的父母，直到我童年的灵魂找到依靠。这也是今晚我让大家做的事情。无愧于十大戒律第五条。敬爱你们的父母而不是褒贬他们，这就是为什么我要宽恕我的父亲并且不再评论他，因为我只想要一个“父亲”，这也是我唯一得到的。

我想卸掉一切包袱和我父亲和好，来度过我的余生，不受过去阴影的妨碍。如果世界充满仇恨，我们仍然安于种地，如果世界充满愤怒，我们仍然敢于安慰，如果世界充满绝望，我们仍然敢于憧憬，如果世界充满猜度，我们仍然敢于信任，今晚让父母失望的人们，我要你们对自己的沮丧失望，今晚感觉被父母亲欺骗的人们，我要你们不要再欺骗自己，今晚所有希望将父母踢开的人们，我要你们把手伸向他们。

我在要求你，我在要求我自己，把无条件的爱给我们的父母，这样他们会从他们的孩子那里学会爱，这样会最终重建一个爱的世界。Shmuley曾提到古书上的预言--新的世界将要到来，--当父母的心换回孩子的心的时候。

我的朋友们，我们就是那个世界，我们就是那些孩子。

圣雄甘地曾说：“弱者从不原谅，宽恕是强者的属性。”今晚，作一个强者，并且超越强者，迎接最大的挑战--治愈感情的创伤，我们一定能克服，无论我们童年受的伤害对生活的影响有多大，假定你的父母是无辜的，宽恕每个人，就赢得每个人，成千上万孩子和他们的父母对宽恕的呼唤，或许在这一刻没有结果，但这至少是一个开始，我们所有人都乐意看到的开始。

好了女士们先生们，我对我今晚的讲话评价是：自信，有趣，激动。

从今往后，或许可以听到一首新歌。

让这新歌是孩子们的欢笑。

让这新歌是孩子们的玩闹。

让这新歌是孩子们的歌唱。

让这新歌可以让所有的父母听到。

让我们一起创作一首心灵的交响曲，创造一个让我们的孩子们沐浴在爱里的奇迹。

让我们拯救世界，让伤痛枯萎。 我们一同创作最美的音乐。

愿上帝保佑你们，我爱你们。

viviant

•有权利得到爱，而不必为了赚钱
•有权利得到保护，而不必活该
•有权利觉得有价值的，即使你进入了世界一无所有，
•有权利不听，而不必很有意思
•无需竞争晚间新闻或东伦敦人的权利予以睡前故事
•无需受教育的权利，在学校躲避子弹
•在被作为可爱的思想的权利（即使你有一张脸，只有母亲能爱）。
朋友们，所有人类的知识基础，人类意识的开始，必须是每一个对我们是一个爱的对象。在你知道你是否有红色或棕色头发之前，你知道如果你是黑色或白色，在你的你是什么宗教的一部分知道，你要知道你的喜爱。大约12年前，当我正要开始我的坏巡演，一个小男孩带着他的父母在访问加利福尼亚的家我。他是死于癌症，他告诉我他是多么爱我的音乐和我。
他的父母告诉我，他不是去住，任何一天，他可以只去，我对他说：“你看，我将会来到您的堪萨斯城开业3个月我访问。”我要你来表演。我现在给你这件夹克，我在我的某个视频穿。“他的眼睛亮了，他说：”你是gonna它给我？“我说”是的，但是你必须保证，你会穿它的表演。“我试图让他等一等。我说：”当你来到节目我想看看你在这件夹克，并在这手套“，我给了他我的一个钻手套 - 和我从来没有通常给钻手套了。而且他刚刚在天堂。但或许他太接近天堂，因为当我来到他的小镇，他已经死亡，他们埋在他的手套和外套。他刚刚10岁。上帝知道，我知道，他竭力举行。但至少在他去世时，他知道他是爱，不仅他的父母，而且连我这个陌生人靠近，我也爱他。以及所有的爱，他知道的，他不单单把这个世界来，他当然没有离开单独行动。
如果您输入这个世界知道你是爱，你离开这个世界知道相同，那么一切发生在中间，他可以处理。一位教授可能会降低你，但你不会感到退化，老板可能会挤压你，但你不会被粉碎，一个公司的斗士可能征服你，但你仍然会取得胜利。他们怎么会没有能真正实现在拉你呢？对于你知道你是一个值得爱的对象。其他的只是包装。
但是，如果你没有该内存被爱，你是注定要寻找的东西世界上填写你。但不管多少钱，你或你如何成为著名的，你还是下降了空。你真正寻找的是无条件的爱，无条件接受。而这是一件事是在出生时被剥夺了你。朋友'让我为你画一张照片。下面是一个典型的一天在美国 - 6岁以下青少年在20岁自杀身亡，未满20岁的12名儿童死于火器 - 记住这一天，而不是一年。三100和99的孩子会被拘捕滥用药物，1352婴儿将出生的未婚母亲。这是发生在最富裕，最发达的世界历史的国家之一。是的，在我国有一个暴力的流行，没有其他相似之处工业化国家。这是美国的方式表达自己的青少年伤害，他们的愤怒。但不要认为有不一样的痛苦和英国之间的对应的痛苦。在这个国家的研究表明，每一个小时，3个在英国的青少年给自己造成伤害，削减或烧毁他们的机构或过量往往采取一种。现在这是他们选择应付忽视和情感痛苦的痛苦。
在英国，多达20％的家庭只有坐下来共进晚餐，每年一次。每年一次！那么，有悠久的阅读你的孩子讲睡前故事的传统？从20世纪80年代的研究表明，谁是阅读的儿童，有更大的识字率和在校表现明显优于同行。然而，不到33岁的英国儿童7点58％的人有定期睡前故事读给他们。您可能没有想到这么多，直到你考虑到，他们的父母75％的人认为睡前故事都在他们这个年龄。显然，我们没有要问自己，如果所有的这些痛苦，愤怒和暴力行为的来源。这是不言自明的是，儿童是雷鸣般的反对忽视，对冷漠发抖，并大声疾呼只是被察觉。各种幼儿在美国的保护机构说，数百万儿童受虐待者在形式的忽视，平均一年。
是的，忽视。在富裕家庭，特殊家庭，有线到了极限每电子设备。家有父母回家，但他们并不是真正的家，因为他们的校长在办公室。而他们的孩子？那么，他们的孩子就凑合用他们激情屑。和你不从无休止的电视多，电脑游戏及影片。这些硬，冷的数字对我来说，扭曲的灵魂，动摇的精神，应该向你表示我为什么投入了新的进入使我们的孩子主动治愈一个巨大的成功，因此我的时间和大量资源。我们的目标很简单 - 重新创建父/子键，重申其承诺，并参照所有谁注定有一天能走这地球上美丽的孩子们前进的道路。但由于这是我第一次公开演讲，你有这么热烈欢迎我到你的心，我觉得我想告诉你更多。我们每个人都有自己的故事，在这个意义上可以成为个人统计。他们说，父母喜欢跳舞。你走了一步，你的孩子需要另一个。我发现，让家长重新致力于自己的儿童，只是故事的一半。另一半是孩子们准备重新接受他们的父母。当我还很年轻，我记得我们有这种名为黑女孩，是狼和狗猎犬混合疯狂的傻子。不仅不是她多大的警卫犬，她是一个非常害怕和紧张的事情，这是一个奇迹，她没有通过做好每一次卡车隆隆的，或通过印第安纳席卷雷暴。我的妹妹珍妮特和我的狗了如此多的爱，但我们从来没有真正赢回了信任感已经从她被盗她以前的主人。
我们知道他以前打她。我们不知道有什么。但不管是什么，这足以吸出的精神权利的那条狗。有些孩子们今天已断奶伤害谁离开自己的爱的需要的小狗。他们可以不关心他们的父母少。留给他们自己的设备，他们珍惜自己的独立性。他们提出并已离开他们的父母在后面。还有谁是孩子的仇恨和不满，对他们的父母更糟糕的情况下，使任何序曲，他们的父母可能会采取有力回扔在他们面前。今夜，我不希望任何我们犯这种错误。这就是为什么我呼吁世界上所有的孩子 - 开始，我们所有人今晚 - 原谅我们的父母，如果我们感到被忽视。原谅他们，教导他们如何去爱了。你可能并不奇怪，我并没有一个田园诗般的童年。应变和紧张，我在我自己的父亲的关系存在，是有据可查的。我的父亲是一个艰难的人，他推我的兄弟和我的努力，从最早的时代，是最好的表现，我们可以。他有很大的困难，显示我的感情。他从来没有告诉我他爱我。他从来没有真正赞扬我。如果我做了伟大的演出，他会告诉我，这是一出好戏。如果我没有一个确定节目，他会说什么。